Many psychology professionals believe that building strong relationships and a strong marriage is now more difficult than ever. Now, most of the time people devote to work, raising children and solving household chores, but as a result, marriage turns into “well, somehow later”.
Yes, it is true, having a family means making great efforts to keep the house clean, prepare food, and take care of the children. But as a wife and parent, it is important to understand that your marriage is just as important and sometimes more important than other factors. After all, you cannot raise happy children unless the foundation of your family is solid. Children are raised not only by parents, but also by the atmosphere around.
Leading psychologists and sexologists believe that there is a basic basis of advice that will help not only save the marriage, but also make it happy.
Daily routine for you and your relationship
Relationships can not be kept only on a routine, they need to be diluted with romance, intimacy and warm evenings. It does not matter whether you go on dates every week or go to the movies with friends, the main thing is to distract from the usual things and devote time to each other.
Be honest in your feelings
People do not always know how to read minds and guess what does not suit you. That you know that you have stress, resentment, and your partner just does not understand what's the matter. Do not accumulate negative emotions in yourself, one conversation can correct any situation, just try.
Call for reinforcements
There is nothing wrong with asking for outside help from time to time. If you have grandmothers and grandfathers, they will happily sit with their grandchildren, and you can relax and do what you have wanted for so long. Many people think this is wrong, relying on the strange opinion that only bad parents do it, supposedly “how can you be tired of children?”. Can. Everyone is tired, you are not a robot and nothing terrible will happen if you devote one evening to your soul mate and yourself.
Put your marriage first
Your children are your world, it’s not even worth saying, I know everything about it, but there is one “but”. You should not flirt to parenthood enough to forget about other aspects of your personality. You should not perceive your partner only as the mother or father of your children, in the first place, it is your life partner you have chosen. You fell in love with him not for having children, and you need to be perceived as a woman or a man, and not just as a parent.
All couples are arguing. This is completely natural. What matters is how you deal with these quarrels. If this excitement is for you to emerge victorious and turn out to be right, then this must be corrected. If you do not resolve conflicts, then sooner or later they will lead to the fact that one of the couple will get tired of swearing and he will leave.
Show your love
Show your children how much you love each other correctly, because it will affect how they build future relationships. All children copy the behavior of their parents, not only in adolescence, so you should be an example of a beautiful and happy marriage.