For some dating and relationships - not the easiest thing! It takes time, energy and some emotional investment. A basic understanding of the basics of communication, honesty and empathy is also required.
Unfortunately, we still live in a society with gender stereotypes. It is assumed that a woman will be caring and emotional, while a man must suppress his feelings and emotions, otherwise he is weak.
For me personally, it is very attractive when a person can show his emotions and open up to others in order to show some kind of vulnerability. But not all people like me and for some people traditional gender stereotypes in relationships can be good.
Regardless of your gender perspective in relationships, there are subtle but effective skills that can help you become a good girl or a better wife.
I find it striking that electronics has completely changed the way we communicate with each other, at a time when society lacks basic skills for all types of relationships and life situations. This only complicates the task and increases the likelihood of misunderstanding and misinterpretation.
If you are wondering what you need to do to become a good girlfriend or wife, without becoming too strong and not looking desperate, carefully read the list:
So many people, including me sometimes, are so focused on how to respond to what the other is saying, that they are missing the essence and feelings associated with what they are talking about.
Here are some active listening concepts to keep in mind:
- pay all your attention;
- show that you are listening through your non-verbal behavior and communication;
- provide feedback when appropriate. Do not give unwanted advice;
- keep out of judgment;
- Answer prudently and with respect.
2. Respect his previous relationships.
Put your feelings aside, because before you were people in his life, and they continue to live.
So even if you don’t like some of them, stop it. Be patient and give warmth.
3. Support each other's goals
In some cases, you feel that you do not fully agree with the goals of your man, maybe because of the fact that you do not fully understand something or think about something else.
Regardless of your reasoning, it is important to support your man and put aside your personal reasons, especially if this is exactly what they have long wanted to achieve.
4. Pay attention to his interests and passions.
The biggest passions and interests are usually obvious, but do not forget to pay attention to the small details in them.
5. Communicate with respect
Do not swear and do not insult each other. It is not effective and, as a result, it turns out to be completely useless. Speak on par. Do not talk in raised tones.
Communication is the most important aspect of a relationship, and should be taken seriously, regardless of whether you are a girlfriend or wife!
6. Give each other your own space.
We all need some personal space. You can not be rude to people or avoid them. In fact, you just need to give time to yourself and this is not a crime. This should not be condemned in a relationship.
It is very important to have your time for many reasons. For example, lack of dependence on each other or thinking about situations and problems that need to be discussed or solved.
7. Respect the values and beliefs of each other.
We are all different from each other, be it politics or religion, and it is important to respect each other and understand that you can agree with another point of view or not. Do not judge the other just because both of you are different in some aspect of life. If you learn to accept differences, you can learn a lot.
Dating is not an easy thing, and as technology and other trends continue to grow, they are becoming more complex. What I know is that the principles that make up a good girl and a good wife compared to a bad girl and a bad wife, remain relatively stable over time.
This list will help you get better. None of us is perfect, but as long as we strive to be better than yesterday, we are doing everything in our power