It's amazing, but men and women go to treason when they have already decided that their marriage or relationship is over. Why change if you can just ask your spouse for a divorce and be free?
Strange, but true: in many cases, the reason people cheat is because they want to be caught off guard. To be caught cheating in order to break even the most pitiful marriage is undoubtedly a bad idea.
There are 3 main reasons why some people really want to be “cheated”, even if they know that the marriage is over.
1. You are afraid to ask for a divorce
It is difficult to recognize the fact that you are done with your marriage or relationship, especially when you are afraid of the reaction of your man.
2. You want him to put an end to the relationship, not you
Treason your spouse may be a sign that the relationship with you is over. You can also blame for failing to marry him, not for yourself.
3. He believes that the novel is the only "acceptable" reason for divorce.
Unfortunately, many people still believe that being unhappy in a marriage is not in itself sufficient reason to ask for a divorce.
The problem of such people is that, although deception can solve their immediate problem of giving up marriage, they themselves like to suffer more because of their actions. For them, it's better than being frank with each other about what really happens in a pair.
If your future betrayal is spinning in your thoughts, or you have already done it, there are some important things that you should know:
Probably when you have a romance on the side, you will feel a surge of negative emotions, including anxiety, guilt, shame, confusion, embarrassment and self-loathing. When your husband discovers your infidelity, he will experience the sharp pain of your betrayal. He will begin to wonder what part of your relationship was real and what a lie.
You are likely to fulfill your desire, and cheating will sever your relationship. But it will be terrible. He will want to make sure that you pay for the pain you caused. And your partner is not the only one who will severely condemn you for treason. Your relatives, friends, colleagues and even children will look down on you for your behavior.
Better than cheating for divorce
Instead of deceiving to break off relationships, the best thing you can do is prepare yourself for a courageous and truthful conversation with your spouse. No matter how inconvenient, when you imagine that you are saying that you are ready to end a relationship, this is the best thing you can do for yourself and for him.
If you are afraid to tell him that you want to dissolve the marriage, you need to find out the reasons. Are you afraid of hurting him? Do you feel guilty? Or are you afraid of the consequences?
If you are afraid of what he will do when you tell him that it's all over, get ready for the worst reaction and hope for the best.
If you are afraid of harming him, realize that this is impossible if he still wants a relationship with you. However, you can minimize the pain he feels, to be honest and straightforward to say that everything is over. And when you do your best to minimize the pain you inflict on him, you will not feel guilty.
If you hope that your partner will end your relationship first, you are disrespectful towards yourself and him. When you manipulate someone else to make decisions for you, you do not behave ethically, which hurts you both.
If you do not want to break your vows "to be in sickness and in health until death do us part," but you are unhappy in marriage, you need to look for the soul. For a marriage to be strong, both spouses must work on themselves in order to maintain it.
Regardless of the reasons why you view treason as the end of your relationship, if it's all over for you, then it's over. The kindest and most ethical way in which you can break off relationships is not to deceive, but to hold an honest and respectful conversation with those who have been with you for so many years.