When it comes to treason, the first reaction of most people is condemnation. And both in the situation when you changed, and in the one when you changed. Have you changed your loved one? How could you, he trusted you so much! Changed you? So you are to blame. Look how you started yourself - is it possible?
The reason for this reaction is very simple - it is much easier for people to give this a clear explanation than to understand the complex motives of other people's relationships. Treason is definitely bad. Because it is so accepted. If you are in a relationship, it means that you have no right to privacy or to mistakes. And the rest does not concern anyone.
The most popular stereotypes about treason
If a man has changed - then the woman launched herself
With this, men most often justify themselves when married go to the left, and others gladly support such an argument. Conveniently, no one likes a housewife weighing under 100 kg. But how then to explain the fact that they change even those who look good?
In fact, the reason for adultery, of course, is not in appearance. Relationship problems, the divergence of sexual rhythms, the separation of partners from each other and even the simple desire for novelty - any of these reasons can push both a man and a woman to betrayal. And the point here is not at all that someone has launched himself. Rather, this is one of the reasons. But this is always accompanied by something else.
The one who changed - the victim
Here, too, everything is simple and logical. Man was changed, and he, of course, poor and unhappy, was the victim of betrayal by a loved one. This, of course, happens quite often, but the reverse situation is not uncommon. When in a relationship is a problem - and treason is the real apogee of a problem in a relationship, both partners are always to blame. Very often, people go to treason because they are tired of misunderstanding, disrespect from a loved one. Many suffer inattention and seek solace in the arms of another person. And sometimes betrayal is a revenge at all in response to a partner’s betrayal, his attention to another person, or, even worse, indifference. The cheater simply does not see any other conclusion and solves this problem as it can - by giving his unclaimed love and passion to another person.
In many ways, the one who changes is even harder than his partner. A traitor is tormented by remorse, fear of finding betrayal, confusion and misunderstanding of how to live on.
Do not judge those who change, until you figure out what's wrong. This question is much more subtle and ambiguous than it seems at first glance.