Divorce parents is very difficult - even if the child is an adult. Quite a few people are able to calmly, without unnecessary emotions, feel that the parents have decided to break up. It is even more painful to find out that the father has another family and other children.
“I learned about the fact that my father has another family, quite by accident. At that time, my parents were not even divorced. I came to work at the wrong time - he was at the meeting, and I was offered to wait. And on the couch waiting for him a little girl schoolgirl. When her father came, she jumped up and shouted to him: "Dad!". That day I just ran away, forgetting why I waited for him.
Later I learned that for many years he had a mistress who gave birth to two daughters of his father. Much fell into place - for example, why we never had enough money. I remember well how my mother took the night duty over schedule, and then we went to the store and bought a dress for graduation. Or, as I have been working since I was 16, to have at least some pocket money. My father all this time "had no money." It surprised me - he had his own business, and he often stayed late at the office. Now all questions have disappeared.
My father introduced me to his mistress - for some reason he decided that I could understand him and make friends with this woman. As soon as I saw her — well-groomed, in a mink coat and in an expensive car, she left again. My mom never had a fur coat, she bought everything she had, herself. And it was she who worked in two shifts when her father broke his leg and could not walk for two months. when he didn’t get along with the business for a long time, and we sat almost without money.
Daddy's daughters also have everything. They go to the pool, wear beautiful clothes, in 16 years they will not go to send mail to buy something for themselves and look no worse than their friends.
I do not blame my father for what he loved. All people can face it. But he did not admit honestly about his new feelings, did not divorce, lied to my mother, who sincerely loved him and always supported him. He tried to explain that he was not interested with her, that his mother began to look worse, did not attract him as a woman. No wonder - after all, she worked much more so that I lived well, kept housekeeping, always prepared him dinners. There was simply no time for itself.
I continue to communicate with my father, but I can not forgive him. The way he did it seems to me a real betrayal. "