Why men are not particularly eager to marry, even if they really love their girlfriend? Family life seems to representatives of the stronger sex a very controversial event - boring, costly, and full of different obligations, to which they are not ready at the moment (and rarely are ready, therefore they get married only if they are fully pressed).
So that your marriage does not turn into a boring routine, gradually killing your feelings for each other, you should keep in mind these 4 secrets that will help you find harmony.
Separation of duties and solving everyday problems
Life kills love, and this is far from exaggeration. When a woman falls into the household trap, she changes a lot. My wife has no time and strength to look after herself, her circle of interests narrows down to the kitchen and ironing board, she becomes irritable. And if she is also forced to work, then it is not far to a nervous breakdown. All this is very bad for the relationship with her husband, whom such a family life begins to tire. He is detached from his wife, loses interest in her.
Solving this problem is quite simple - the division of responsibilities at home. Since the court is already 21st century, the time has come to change the existing foundations for the sake of happiness in the family. Discuss this question with a man - let him take over, for example, washing dishes after you have prepared dinner. Or washing things will be his responsibility. Many men cope with household chores no worse than women, and sometimes even better.
In addition, you can clean and cook dinner together. Then it will not only be easier for you, but you will have another reason to be together.
Attention to your partner
Half of family problems can be solved if the spouses just sit down and listen to each other. That is why, by the way, family psychotherapy is sometimes very effective - just at a session with the husband and wife, finally, there is time to talk. Discuss everything - domestic affairs, news (for work or events that occur in the world), your hobbies, friends' affairs, even each other's thoughts. After such dialogues, you will discover each other from the new side - not as a spouse, feelings for which have already cooled, but as an interesting interlocutor.
Cohabitation and the associated routine can finish off anyone. Do not let them drag you down. There are so many ways in the world to have fun together - you just need to want and show some creativity. Going to the cinema, horseback riding, trips to the ski base, theater, joint visits to the iso-studio and much more. It's great if children join you - the rest of the whole family has a very good effect on their upbringing.
Communicating with people who are happy in marriage
Surrounding people influence us much more than we would like. If you communicate with single ladies who do not stick with men in any way, and who persuade you to do crazy actions that are not quite permissible for married women, this cannot but affect your family life. The situation is the same with his friends - convinced bachelors are usually not particularly pleased with the fact that there are “married women” among friends, and sometimes they try to upset the relationship and return the friend to the “right path”.
But happy married couples who lead an active life - relax together, meet with friends and feel comfortable in marriage, is another matter. Next to them, you will feel much better, and your own relationships will be more harmonious. Choose the environment right!