The word "forever" used to mean "until death do us part." Today, for many people, forever means "until the end of love." Despite the fact that today many marriages end in divorce, it is still possible to stay together for many years. Just for this you need to work, you need to learn how to communicate and know yourself well. So, this is what couples do that have managed to carry their relationship through many years.
They are practical in the most important life issues.
Indeed, you can love the person with whom you had a wonderful three-month romance ... or with whom you lay in bed and chatted about music. There are many different types of love, and some of them are simply not meant to last forever. There is love, which is the next stage in our life, it helps us grow, develop and learn to decide what we need and what we want in a long-term relationship. You can not build relationships only on passion, you need to have common values with you, the same vision of life. In other words, couples who live together for a long time will equally answer the question “Do you want children?” And not just the question “What bar do you want to go to?”
They often talk about their future.
At work, almost everyone has an annual performance rating. But in personal relationships, couples rarely think about where their relationships lead. They don't ask each other “How do we cope? What would you like to change?
But asking such questions at least once a year, you take your relationship under your personal control. In addition, you better begin to understand what can be done better. For example, your relationship is already a year old, and you are now at that stage of your life when you want to get married. You can say to a man: “I don’t want to put pressure on you and I am afraid that this will sound too intrusive, but I’m just curious how you see our relationship in the future.” This is a completely normal question. Of course, such conversations are always a little confusing, but this happens even after 10 years of dating. If you manage to cope with the awkwardness, then you only strengthen your relationship.
They take responsibility
In her book “To love bravely,” Alexandra Solomon wrote about “self-awareness in relationships,” in other words, whether you understand how you behave in relationships. You know your weaknesses, your strengths and your fears. If you want a long relationship with your partner, you should see that he knows himself too well. See how the partner behaves: does it come at your request? Is it reliable?
Couples who have been together for a long time are perfectly aware when they do something wrong and they try to prevent this from happening again. Therefore, if you meet with someone for six months and this person has never admitted that he made a mistake, then this is a reason to think.
They can talk straight
In order to get something, partners in a long relationship are able to ask for what they need. They ask, not complain. If a woman wants to spend time with her man, then she will ask “Do you want to come in tomorrow?” Instead of reproaching that a man never has time for her, but for his brother he is always free.
They don't feel like a thing.
Relationships are not always simple, and if you think that everything will be different for you, then you will find a big disappointment. Yes, you have the right to certain things, such as love, security, communication, but your partner does not owe you anything. Today, many modern people consider themselves to be special and are confident that they deserve special relationships. But this is far from the truth. You need to learn to cope with their complexes and find ways to feel good even outside relationships.
They re-create their relationship
Instead of thinking that your relationship is rooted and you now have to endure each other until death, imagine that you are experiencing several relationships, but with the same person. I do not mean that you need to literally break off relations and then converge again. Suppose you have been together for 30 years. In the first 10 years you may have gone to another country for your loved ones, then you moved again or you defended a diploma. It all depends on how you look at your relationship. This is how love is tested.