It sounds like a manipulation: “make a man do what you want,” but if what you do makes him happy, that’s another story. So how to “get it all” when a man does exactly what you want, and at the same time becomes happy?
"Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy, they are charming gardeners who make our souls bloom." Marcel Proust.
When you show him how much you value what he does for you, he will do more and more. What you value is appreciated. The same goes for men.
The key aspect here is not to expect something from him, and then take for granted what he does. Every time he does something - gives you a fresh bouquet of flowers, delivers an orgasm or says a compliment - appreciate it, say “thank you” and even more.
When you do something for him, you create a kind of interchange. We derive pleasure equally from what we give and what we receive. Therefore, a balance is needed.
The woman who is called the “taker” misses this universal truth and ultimately receives much less than if she decided to reciprocate. Find a way to return your love, time, attention, resources to him without counting it.
"A real man will not meet with the most beautiful girl in the world - he will meet with a girl who makes his world beautiful." Author unknown.
When you learn to look at things from his point of view, you will inevitably find that hidden lever that was not obvious to you before. If you are really passionate and excited about something and just want to share your source of joy with him, your man will be only too happy.
Communicate with him
"The biggest problem in communication is the illusion of what it was." George Bernard Shaw.
No matter how trite it may sound, but often we do not express our true desires, needs and expectations. The reality is that when you openly and clearly tell your man what makes you happy, he will do everything possible to make it happen.
As the old saying goes, a happy wife is a happy life. Remember, he cannot read your thoughts, so make his life easier by simply saying something like: “You will be my hero if you are (insert everything that you want him to do)”.
Create a holiday
"You understand that you are in love when you cannot fall asleep, because the reality is finally getting better than your dreams." Author unknown.
When you turn a seemingly ordinary situation or event into a holiday (whatever that means: kiss him a hundred times, surprise him in a new laundry), you literally reconnect his brain to new associations with you and patterns for the same actions. .
For example, his ex-girlfriend criticized him for doing the wrong thing. Therefore, when he will wash the dishes, give him a tender kiss and gratitude for helping you to maintain a perfect manicure. Now, the two of you can dance in the kitchen, take a bubble bath, or cuddle in bed - whatever you are celebrating at the moment.