Are you tired of investing time and energy not in those men, after which you again and again fall into despair, do you feel sick and empty in your soul? And after the break, you will not allow anyone to invade your life and break everything.
But from love you do not want to give up. You want to meet the right man who will inspire and adore you. But you are very scared. After all that has happened to you, you are not sure how to start dating men again, so as not to be deceived and not to waste precious time.
How to “bring yourself into the light” again and open yourself towards love, while protecting your heart and preserving your life peace? Answer? Openness while maintaining boundaries. Yes it is possible! Just follow our tips.
Avoid men with low self-esteem
If he does not love and does not appreciate himself, then probably he will not be able to love and appreciate you. Look for a person with normal self-esteem, this is important.
Make sure your family values match.
Look carefully at what kind of life he created for himself. Does he have healthy and long-lasting relationships with family and friends? Does he have everything in order with finances and other obligations? Does he have a good relationship with his ex-wife and children? Make sure his life runs smoothly before letting him into his life.
Do not accept his bad behavior
Remember the behavior of men that hurt you. Write down all these men's habits. Was your ex passively aggressive, pessimistic, critical, not sociable, cold? If everything is repeated with the current man, ask him to stop behaving this way. If he cannot (or does not want), pass by him. You deserve a good attitude.
Look at his actions (not words).
His actions, not words, will show that he does not give a damn about you. Does he find time for you and always keep in touch with you, even when you are not together? Does he keep his promises? A caring, kind, persistent and generous man will become the same caring, kind, persistent and generous husband.
Make sure you are present in all aspects of his life.
Over time, he must introduce you to all aspects of his life without exception. He should be glad to see you at home and at work. He should invite you to spend time with his friends and family. He should be proud to represent you.
Make sure he is interested in you.
If a man is interested, then you are his priority. He will constantly ask you about meetings and say what he likes about you. You do not have to guess what he feels or look forward and anxiously to wait for his call.
If something bothers you, tell him about it. If he ignores your feelings or is in a defensive position all the time, this is a bad sign. Meet a person who is able to adequately assess their behavior and, if necessary, change it. Meet a man who admits his mistakes and appreciates your feelings.
Do not rush to have sex
Sex is great. But if you are serious about finding the “same”, then do not rush. If you wait a little with sex, then both of you will have time to create an emotional connection with each other. If you sincerely like a man, he will wait until you are ready. If he is more interested in sex, and not you, then he does not respect your boundaries.
Next to him you easily and well
If you are constantly experiencing stress, anxiety, or your relationship is like a powder keg, something is wrong. Trust your intuition and see how you feel next to a man. If you had more bad days with him than good days, then it’s time to move on without him. If the relationship is right, you feel relaxed and happy.