For whom are you really trying to gain confidence?
I hope you need confidence in your own forces in order to live better. As doubts go away, your relationship with family, friends and a loved one will improve (although I hope you need it first of all for yourself, not for others).
Why is it so difficult for a person to believe in himself?
Finding confidence can be a daunting task. Sometimes people around us behave provocatively and do not see anyone but themselves, and we mistakenly perceive it as confidence in our capabilities. We do not want to seem rude or arrogant, so we try to downplay our social significance. We lose confidence in ourselves because we do not want to be considered self-confident.
Another difficult moment concerning trust is that it is easier to adhere to a way of thinking that presumes self-doubt than a way of thinking that presupposes the opposite feeling. Like all women, we tear our souls, focusing on our shortcomings and imperfections, instead of thinking about what we have achieved and what kind of person we have brought up in ourselves.
Here are five simple ways to restore self-confidence:
Remember the happy events of your life
This is the best way to start gaining confidence. You will see that you have so many things. Everything in life is going well with you, and you should be proud of the result of work on yourself.
Look in the mirror and try to see the good in your own reflection.
When we look at ourselves in the mirror, quite often we want to correct something in the reflection. Do not dwell on it. Instead of looking for flaws, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Focus on those features that you especially like, and repeat again that you are beautiful. Then, step back a bit, look at yourself in full growth - and realize how smart, kind, witty and beautiful you are.
Find something good around, look for fun in the setting - and be proud of your laugh. It seems to me that sometimes we lose confidence in ourselves, because we are unable to notice the positive. Find a reason to laugh every day and meet this event with good feelings, no matter what happens to you.
Remember that you have a support group
Never forget about those who love you and care about you. Among these people may be your family, your friends, your colleagues, your boyfriend or husband, your neighbors and your children. Remember that there are people who wish you success in everything.
And even if you do not count those whom you know, consider that strangers, too, as a rule, want your prosperity: benevolence is inherent in human nature. Of course, on the Internet sometimes they write a lot of nasty things, but when you talk to a person face to face, it becomes noticeable that he really wants you to find happiness and success.
Take time during the day to pause. Personally, it seems to me that one of the reasons that my confidence is slipping away from me is that at tense moments I start to fuss, like a chicken that has lost its head. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know what I want to do, and in the end I realize that I lost all the guidelines.
Take the time to meditate. Think about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. This is a great opportunity to develop daily, weekly or even annual goals.
When you meditate, do not forget where it all began. Remember what made you triumph, remember your past achievements, remember how much you worked. Take a deep breath, concentrate - and problems will begin to be solved as if by themselves.