The main difference between “I love you” and “I'm in love with you” is that you can say the first phrase to anyone: parents, brother, best friend or your dog. The second is only about romance.
So why is "I in love with you" much stronger than "I love you"?
You become more vulnerable
If you say to a man “I'm in love with you,” then you are in a more vulnerable position. The words “I love you” can be spoken to 20 different people (see above), and you admit directly to being in love, most likely, only to a single man.
You give a person more power over your emotions.
Being in love causes certain feelings within you. Let this be a beaten comparison, but butterflies appear in the stomach. This is romance, this is the time when you fully open your heart.
It is logical that if you let another person know about such power over your emotions, then it gives him power over you in principle. Perhaps that is why some people, especially those who are jealous of their independence, are so difficult to pronounce these words.
You risk staying heartbroken
You can be left with a broken heart if your romance ends. Those who loved people broke their hearts, they know: it is unbearable pain, tearing into pieces. Sometimes a person for years can not cope with the loss.
When you confess that you are in love, you should be prepared for this situation. Knowing this, someone will be afraid to pronounce the coveted phrase. In short, there are high stakes in this game.
You must trust
Since you put yourself in a very vulnerable position when you say “I'm in love with you,” then you simply have no choice, you have already trusted this person. For many people, learning to trust people is a huge problem, because in the past they have been betrayed or hurt more than once. Giving your heart to another person is like making a leap into the abyss and hoping that the grid is stretched below.
You must face your fears.
If you have already experienced a feeling of love, then a confession to a new person can stir up old feelings in you. If a loved one hurts, then this injury stays with you for life. When on the path of life another person meets, the past experience immediately rises before your eyes, and you begin to behave more carefully.
You can keep a low profile on dates, but as soon as you say “I'm in love with you,” you throw away all fears. You are forced to face your past, in the hope that this time everything will be different.
You are fully committed to your partner.
When you confess your love, you lay all your cards on the table. Show the person that they are completely devoted to him (and are forced to admit it themselves). There is no turning back.
Benedict Smith once wrote: “I asked her if she believed in love. To which she replied that this was her most sophisticated way of hurting herself. ” Love is both beautiful and scary at the same time. But no matter how scary it was, if you found your man, then you should sincerely say: "I am in love with you."
You cannot constantly protect yourself, and if you continue, you will close yourself from the whole world. It is very difficult to pronounce these words, but that is why they are so important.