Embarrassment is one of the main feelings that unite people in relationships and marriage, when, of course, they are ready to demonstrate it. In each life, sometimes awkward and absurd moments occur during which we struggle to hide the humiliation because we always want to look decent. People are afraid of not being accepted in a decent society.
And even if such a society is limited to a romantic or married couple, I want a close person to think well of us. Relationship problems arise when partners are absorbed in trying to show the perfect picture of themselves. More energy is spent on maintaining the fantasy image of a person, instead of being himself and giving joy to his beloved.
Everyone has their own ego. The ego is our separate and unique identification, and without it it is impossible to function and bring any business to the end.
Every time you feel overly embarrassed, the ego gets more influence on the process than it should be. This is a sign that you feel alienated and have forgotten this truth of life, that all are interconnected.
The more awkward and uncomfortable the situation of a person is, demonstrating his vulnerability, the more he can be sympathetic. This shows the other person that you are more similar than different, and demonstrates trust and authenticity in his presence.
Embarrassment reveals humanity, and when you don’t hide it from a loved one, it can make relationships deeper and stronger than ever. Below are five typical problems and questions that people find too shameful to talk about, but discussing them will help both fall in love more.
Deep hidden fears
This is not about the fear of spiders, but about the deeper problems associated with your personality and character. Fears are so deeply hidden and hardened that sometimes they can not even guess.
Such fears include the fear of being unappreciated and unloved, the inability to take care of yourself, the constant search for stimulation due to the feeling of inner emptiness. Everyone has a key fear that affects behavior. You are not alone. Your partner also has some fear that he may be ashamed of.
Family skeletons hidden deep in the closet
Many since childhood think that they are the continuation of their family, and that it is somehow reflected in man. The ability to talk about it, establishing a clear framework between yourself and loved ones, is a healthy approach. It helps your partner understand you better. The truth is that in life people go through different life circumstances, but most of them are quite typical.
Secret dreams and goals for the future
Sharing your plans is a risky move. People can respond to less than 100% with support and confidence, which will lead to doubts. Even in the absence of self-hesitation, the lack of trust in the words of a loved one will make you feel the cold, hard reality that this person does not suit you. You either understand that they are not made for each other, or the relationship will become stronger, and dreams and plans will be shared.
The financial condition is only your business. However, if you have shared your life with someone, discuss some aspects. Lifestyle, travel and any problems with finances inevitably concern people from the closest circle. It must always be remembered that you are not your problems. You are much more important than any confusion on this earth, and if your financial situation causes a feeling of shame, try not to associate yourself with it. Plus, you can always fix your case. If your partner condemns you, most likely this is a reflection of your own self-flagellation.
Unconventional sexual fantasies
It is difficult to share some fantasies, but sharing them with a partner can raise your self-esteem and give the relationship to sensuality, even if the second half does not tell in return about their own.
When a person truly loves and desires good, he will be glad to know what turns you on. Of course, there is no such rule, according to which it is necessary to share your fantasies, but if this happens in a pair, you can open a new exciting facet in the relationship.
Courage to talk about sexual fantasies, again, can bring together, and it turns out that you are not so different from other people. Once the ego is removed from the equation, unity comes.
And finally, embarrassment and embarrassment is part of any way to achieve the goal, including warm relationships.