We are ready to confess love to men for a long time and believe that we really love them. However, when it comes to real action, we begin to realize that a man is important to us not by himself, but by what he can give us.
Love is the enjoyment of man and the acceptance of him as he is, even if he does not do anything for you. When we just need him, we do not enjoy the man himself. Rather, we enjoy what we take from him. Here are 6 signs that you do not love a man, but just need him.
You focus on what you get from a man
Each of us may have unconscious physical, emotional, and material expectations from our other half. And when these expectations are not met, there are problems and quarrels in the relationship.
The difference is that when you love a person, you do not pay attention to the fact that one of your expectations or desires your man did not fulfill. At the same time, if you need something that you expect to receive from a man, and do not receive it - your life together is in question.
You blame the man for your problems.
And this happens most often when you do not get what you want. In true love, meanwhile, there is no room for accusations. Not everything that happens to us is bad - it is the fault of our spouse. Even if this is so, it is advisable to talk about it calmly and deliberately, instead of violently putting pressure on your man.
You are too attached to a man
To get used to a man and to be tied to him (read - dependent) are different things. Habit - a thing, sometimes inevitable and completely normal. Meanwhile, attachment is the inability to live without a man. We need him and cannot solve our problems in his absence. If you depend so much on your spouse, then be prepared that parting with him will be given to you very hard. Therefore, as soon as possible, begin to teach yourself independence. Believe me, self-sufficient women men always strive to achieve.
You all control too hard
To make your man meet your expectations and needs, you begin to control all his actions. This cannot be called love - you love an image that you create for yourself, and not a person himself.
Respect your man and accept him as he is, without trying to mold another person out of him.
Of course, this does not mean that a man should not compromise - both of you should go towards each other. It is important to remember that we cannot change a person. We can only appreciate it.
You feel emptiness without a man
There is a fine line between longing for a man and a feeling of emptiness without him. The second is more like a drug addiction. This is when your happiness and comfort always depend on your man. And you, rather, will miss exactly the well-being, and not specifically the person.
When we really love someone, we do not fill our emptiness with them - we share our full life with the equally full life of our chosen one.
So that there is no emptiness in you, look at yourself and the man as individuals with your own life interests, opportunities and aspirations, who simply decided to go through life together.
Your own happiness comes first for you.
This creates selfishness and unwanted relationship problems. To truly love someone is to wish him happiness and try to make a person happy. In this case, of course, not forgetting to think about yourself. After all, both of you are worthy of happiness.