Paradoxically, one can feel lonely, even being in a relationship or marriage.
You spend a lot of time alone
There are such hobbies and activities in the life of a woman where men do not like to go. And no need to force them - each of us must have our own lives and the right to choose how and with whom to spend our free time. And, in the end, there are just men - couch potatoes. But, if you always go everywhere alone, be it a cinema, a theater, a party with friends, and your husband also prefers to have fun alone, think about it.
When you are alone at home - you have nothing to talk about? Do you notice that more often you prefer to be in different rooms, almost do not communicate with each other and in general you are more comfortable with being at home alone? This is another signal that your married life is no different from single. Partners in a strong pair, as a rule, at home in a comfortable atmosphere tell each other how their day went, discuss the news or just watch a movie. Yes, even if everyone is engaged in business, it is still there, together. At the level of instincts, it is important for loving people to keep a partner in sight.
You don't feel support
Paired unions are largely created also because life difficulties together are easier to overcome: one head is good and two are better. And, of course, it is not normal when a married woman copes with all her difficulties alone and cannot count on the help and support of her partner.
If the situation that “your problems are only your problems” has become the norm for you, if you don’t feel near that same stone wall, “man’s shoulder”, then this is another reason to think about what this relationship gives you, don't give a sense of support?
You have a separate budget.
Nowhere in our life not to get away from money and, of course, they are an integral part of family relationships. Of course, the question of keeping a common or separate budget is decided by each couple individually. But, nevertheless, for our mentality, the more traditional is the variant with a joint budget. And, if you increasingly notice that all the financial burden in the family you drag yourself, and the husband takes minimal part or arranges scandals for excessive waste in his opinion, even when you spend your money, this situation is unhealthy.
You stopped saying "we"
Language is the expression of our thoughts. Married women are more likely to use the pronoun "we." This is quite logical: they perceive themselves as part of the family, planning joint vacations, weekends or trips. Also “we” a married woman speaks when she expresses an opinion not only on her own behalf, but also on behalf of her partner.
If you notice that you used the pronoun “we” often before, and lately it has been supplanted by “I” - this is a clear signal that at a subconscious level you do not feel yourself to be a married woman, part of a couple.
You pay attention to other men
When feelings are fresh and passion reigns in relationships, there are no other men for you. A woman in love simply does not notice them. After the first wave of passion comes a calmer period, a deep affection and respect for the partner is formed, and this can be called true love. A married woman in this state already notices other men, can evaluate their appearance or even get involved in an easy flirt, but no more. Just this deep affection and respect for her man will not let her go for more.
If you increasingly find yourself thinking that you have begun not only to pay attention to other men, but also to think about a romantic relationship with them or even to consciously look for them, bear in mind that this behavior is more characteristic of a free woman.
Of course, this list of 5 points is not universal. For some relationships, free relationships or a split budget may be the norm. But, if you see the presence and other signs in your couple, then know such relations are formal. You do not care that one, even despite the presence of a pair. Should we continue to invest in this relationship?