A man and a woman build relationships in order to have support and support in each other in order not to feel lonely in this world.
In relationships, there is always an interest and desire to know another: “And what are you?”, “What do you like and what do not?”, “What do you dream about?”, “What is important to you?”. What interests you is usually not what is outside, but what is inside, the inner “core” of a person, which is filled with personal principles, values, beliefs, goals, and desires. It is this “core” that makes a person separate, different, next to which one can really feel different.
When a woman dissolves in a man, she always loses this individuality, loses herself, and from this, of course, becomes uninteresting, empty, weak, one that you cannot rely on, with which you cannot feel yourself as equals. As a result, in such relationships it becomes boring, unsafe, and sooner or later they end.
Even being in a serious and lasting relationship, it is necessary to keep a certain distance, not to allow a man too close. After all, that woman who is still mysterious and a little inaccessible, despite years of relationships, is interesting. Do not forget about your interests, girlfriends and hobbies, it is important to save your life, and not just be dependent on a man.
Therefore, if in a pair one dissolves in another, it always means that the relationship is gone, and there is only dependence. To dissolve in a man is to condemn both himself and him to complete loneliness, since relationships are a story not about one, but about two.
Alsou Pashin, a family psychologist, commented on the problem.