Marriage is the desire of two people to create something in common, to be connected with one thread not just in words, but on an official document. This union is possible only when people sincerely love, and also appreciate and respect each other. However, feelings become dulled over time, and people begin to look for missing feelings on the side, to avoid this, it is important to know 3 main aspects that can make your marriage long and happy.
Sexual attraction for each other and mutual attraction
Sexuality is a multifaceted phenomenon, but desire is not fooled. To one pulls, to the other, complete indifference. Do not persuade yourself that you can be with someone without attraction, that sex is not as important as everything else — respect, common interests, human sympathy, social coincidences, etc.
Sexual interest in your partner is the primary criterion for selection, but, of course, not the only one. In connection with the existing ban on sexuality in our culture, we can also unknowingly forbid ourselves to live in harmony and satisfaction with our own body and partner. But having the freedom to be sexually happy, we live happier overall.
So do not ignore this point and do not close your eyes to your sex life, because it is essentially the foundation of the relationship, if a person at home is good at sex, then why should he look for him on the side?
Emotional or emotional intimacy does not fall from the sky like manna from heaven. It is a mutual work and a way to each other. Path, studded not only with roses, but also thorns. Often this is a road of disappointment in oneself and one’s partner, a road of helplessness, uncertainty, illusions, insults, loneliness and despair. But at the end you see each other as real. Real as it is - vulnerable, imperfect and in need of love. Intimacy is to endure oneself and another imperfect and stay together, because love is more important than all.
To become soul mates, you have to work a lot, but the result is worth it. After all, even after the time has passed, you will have decent and harmonious relations, full of mutual respect and love for each other.
Love, that she lived and grew stronger, need responsibility. It is necessary to establish a framework in your relationship, find out what is acceptable or unacceptable for you and your partner. The most important thing is what you can donate for the sake of relationships and what you will do for another person. Relationships do not live long without responsibility.
The more significant the relationship, the more responsibility and commitment the person is willing to take on.
Responsibility is more about love than about limitations. Therefore, without her in a relationship is not enough. After all, if you love and appreciate your partner, then you will try to make every effort to make him comfortable with you.
The psychologist, gestalt therapist Marina Soboleva commented on the problem.