I lived in Germany for several years. This country has taught me a lot: both unusual and useful. But perhaps most of all I was inspired by German women - they definitely have something to learn, and no one will argue with that. Yes, perhaps, to someone, they seem to be too feminist, masculine and fixated on themselves, but, again, looking from what angle to look at it. I can say for sure: the Germans taught me freedom and self-love - something that is so lacking for our compatriots.
1. Independence from men
Here we do not mean feminists and a man-hater, although among them there are those who have something to hide. Every German woman is very sensible to the issue of marriage. Anyone, even the most powerful, loyal and healthy man, can get sick, lose work, change, want to divorce, die, in the end. Therefore, a woman should be able to exist by herself, independent of her husband. Every German woman has a job, her own source of income and an account to which money is deposited on a “rainy day”. And this is not pride and not trampling into the mud of manhood - this is a healthy and rational approach to the future.
2. Mother and wife are not the only vocation of a woman.
Not all Germans are zealous childfree, as many think. Just most of them do not focus on the appearance of children or the role of a good wife. Yes, they, too, are seriously preparing to become mothers, they are buying up mountains of children's little things, and they are thrilled with the pink children's feet, but with the birth of children their lives do not end. German women do not become “naughty moms” who put themselves in raising children and caring for their husband. German mothers continue to self-actualize. Yes, they have children, but this does not mean that they cannot continue to build a career, ride a motorcycle, and tattoo themselves. Life goes on, not just spinning around a child.
3. Independence from another's opinion
German women have an amazing character trait - a healthy pofigism. They are able to not pay attention to what others think about them, turning a blind eye to discussion and talk. They do what is convenient for them and not for others; they know that the most correct opinion is their opinion. Right, I was just jealous of their ability to disengage from everything and listen only to themselves.
4. Appearance is not the most important thing.
No, German women do not walk with an unwashed head and in a dressing gown on the street. Their main rule in clothing and appearance: convenience. You will not meet a German woman while walking with a child in a ten-centimeter stiletto and a short skirt. Of course, when going to a restaurant, to a concert or to an important reception, German women wear appropriate outfits, but in everyday life they prefer comfortable jeans and gym shoes. And no flashy makeup.
5. Taboo on gossip
Do you know what surprised me the most when we were going to meet with Frau's friends for the evening girls' gatherings? We did not discuss anyone and did not gossip about anyone! Remember your meetings with friends: a favorite activity is to suck all your acquaintances, strangers and strangers. Germans categorically do not allow gossip. They believe that everyone is free to live as he believes right. And how correctly: again, nobody knows, the main thing is that the person should be comfortable and comfortable. What were we talking about then? About books and movies, about world news, about hobbies and plans for the future. And, you know, I have never regretted what happened in such a society!