If you have ever been in an unhealthy or frankly destructive relationship, now you can easily list all the warning signs you should have seen then.
It is equally important to stop and check how good your current relationship is. Yes, you want to make sure that you have no cause for concern, but it is also important for you to know that you are not creating any annoying moments.
Not sure if this is true or not? There are several situations that indicate that everything is in order, and that you are a precious diamond and just a find for a man, and he wisely acts to hold on to you.
So, in the best tradition of introspection: can you say that these things are true for you in your relationship?
1. You are actively working on yourself to earn his respect.
Who you are, how you lead and express yourself - all this inspires him. He respects your opinion, your judgments, your character and your choice. He can (and does) look at you all the time. He is looking for your participation. He is proud that you are on his side.
2. You admire him and never betray him
You are number one for him. You often remind him (especially on difficult days) about his remarkable qualities, unique strengths and his true potential. You would never ridicule, diminish or diminish his dignity, especially in front of others.
3. You are working on relationships
You acknowledge that relationships require effort, and you show him daily that he (and your love) is worth the effort. You are actively taking steps to help relationships grow. You give him compliments, remember special dates, notice when he feels depressed, ask what you can do to help, and make sure that he is happy and satisfied. And if not, you will help him understand what he needs.
4. You communicate openly and often
You ask questions and listen to his answers. You often ask about him and check if everything is in order. You know that openness, transparency and ongoing dialogue are the key to strong relationships. And when you start a conversation, his position is just as important for you as your own.
5. You show him his best “me.”
And that means the type of person he is aiming for, and not you find fault with him in order to change a dozen different ways. Truly and sincerely, you want to see how it will be at every turn of your life. You encourage him to follow his dreams, invent new ones and take care of himself.
If you read this list and feel pretty confident that you show all of the 5 qualities listed above, good times begin for you. But there is one more thing to consider, no matter how unique you are: your relationship is a two-way street.
Your partner should also do all of the above for you. It only works if you both make efforts for each other.
Here is an exercise for you. Return to the list. This time, say "and vice versa" at the end of each item. If you can still say that all 5 points are true for both of you, then you know that you match each other.