Often there are situations in life when it seems to us that we are completely incapable of influencing events so that they turn out well for us. Close people may try to manipulate us, and in another situation, the wrong word we have chosen may offend the interlocutor.
There are 25 psychological tricks that are imperceptible to most of those around you and that will help you take control of any circumstances.
1. Put on your headphones: it will help you if you don’t want people to talk to you (it will work even if you don’t listen to music).
2. Instead of thinking about what you want right now, think about what you would like in the future: this can give you extra momentum to stop putting off business and just go to the gym.
3. If someone is angry or annoyed at you, give him a few minutes of silence, and then ask a seemingly innocent question on another topic. So you can get through a tense moment.
4. When someone shy talks to you, look into his eyes and nod: it encourages his interest in conversation.
5. If you want someone to tell you about something, be silent. Silence is quickly filled with information that you need.
6. If you want to avoid attention during the interview, do not forget to pay attention to the speaker (even if you have to look him in the eye) to the end of his question, and then look at someone who is nearby to divert the attention of the speaker.
7. If you want to force a person to be distracted from something, ask him a question which will include addresses or phone numbers: this often takes people out of a bad emotional state.
8. Instead of saying: “I know,” say: “You are right.” This will make a person feel smart.
9. If someone asks you a particularly difficult question, say: “What a good question!”. The person will feel so pleased with himself that he will be less critical during your response (and may not even pay attention to him).
10. Instead of immediately arguing with a point of view with which you disagree, first confirm it, and then state your own opinion.
11. If you are trying to figure out the name or address of someone, ask a question with incorrect information, for example: “Is her intercom still 7752?” or “Olga is still working as a manager at this restaurant?” Your interlocutor will correct you.
12. Instead of saying: “Sorry to keep you waiting,” say: “Thank you for showing patience.” This will increase the likelihood that a person will not be angry.
13. If you ask a question, and someone asks you again, give him a few seconds before repeating the question: often people hear you, they just need time to process the information.
14. If you come across a friend, but do not want to waste time on awkward conversations, tell him where you are going and why, and then ask him about the same. As soon as the person answers, you can say: “Well, then I will not detain you. Have a nice day!"
15. If you want to know about who you like, pay attention to whom he looks after someone has said something funny. People tend to look at the person they like when they laugh.
16. If someone has hiccups, say that stress usually stops hiccups.
17. Instead of saying, “It's all right,” when someone apologizes, say: “Thank you for the apologies.” The person will not be able to sweep away the problem under the rug and open his door for communication.
18. Instead of telling the children not to do something, tell them to do something else. This will distract them from what you do not want them to do, and help them focus on what they should do.
19. If you want your work colleagues to approve your ideas, instead of approving ideas as your own, say that successful people use these ideas, and explain to people how they can apply them in the current situation.
20. If you want someone to stick to one of your own ideas, make him believe that he came up with this on his own. (you can do this by saying: "I swear you talked about this in one thing recently.")
21. If someone does something obviously wrong, think of a minor reason why a person might have done it. and give him the opportunity to use this reason as an excuse to correct the situation.
22. If you need to remember something, think about it, doing something markedly unusual: for example, shifting items in your room.
23. Instead of verbal attacks on someone, tell me what you feel: people can get angry and defend themselves, if they feel “verbal assault”, but they cannot be angry with your feelings.
24. If you want to please people, ask them for a favor: it will make their brain think more positively of you, because they also want to please you.
25. If your child cannot stop asking “why?”, Just say: “I don’t know, but what do you yourself think about this?” The child will come up with his own answer.