You may not believe this, but how people behave when they are in a relationship with each other is not just a popular topic for writers, musicians and filmmakers.
The dynamics of relationships are so complex that in 1940, scientists began to seriously study our behavior. By the 1960s, attachment theory and attachment styles (the model used to understand relationships between people and their behavior in relationships) remains a popular topic today.
There are two groups of attachment styles: safe and unsafe. Most of the population belongs to the safe group and in fact consists of only one subgroup. Attachment styles can be divided into three categories: islands, waves and anchors. Today we are talking about the last group: anchors.
Anchors are not something that weighs you against your will. This is something useful and grounded. Let's look at the personality traits of an anchor or a person with a safe attachment style.
You value relationship
A person with a safe attachment style craves connection and intimacy. In fact, developing, nurturing and maintaining relationships of all kinds is a core value for them. Most likely, they grew up in a house where they observed positive modeling of healthy relationships.
You love working with others
A person with a safe type of attachment does not struggle when it comes to working with others. In the workplace, such people feel the dynamics of the team, are always ready to help and are able to contribute to the work.
You know people well
A person with a safe attachment style does not often focus on “what if” or falls into paranoia in the same way that someone with an anxious attachment style can do. This is because they can read other people's body language and micro-expressions. They tend to make other people feel comfortable, so they rarely observe hiding or anxious people.
Your family experience has been positive.
Most people with a safe attachment style come from a family where they have learned to be open and honest in their relationship. This often does not apply to people with an anxious or hiding style.
You can express your feelings well.
This skill, which other types are struggling to comprehend over time, naturally comes to people with a safe attachment style. They are initially ready for this, want and can be loved, able to open up to their partner and get reciprocity.
Safe attachment style is most common for most people. Very often they overcome this simple path to love and affection, but on the condition that they are in a relationship with a person with the appropriate style of affection, or with someone who is willing to work and build a strong affection.