My ex husband cheated on me. Changed recklessly, monstrously and making unbearably painful. A sea of tears was shed, a mountain of sedatives was drunk and countless nights spent in the kitchen in scandals and quarrels. But at the same time my ex-husband loved me. Yes, yes, I loved, I'm sure of it! I had a million happy moments with him, he took care of me, surrounded me with tenderness and attention, always remembered what my favorite flowers were, and when my mom's birthday was. Of course, in the end, we broke up with him. Cheating outweighed all the good that we had. And when he was sitting in our kitchen for the last time before the divorce, his arms wrapped around his head, I asked him if he was sorry for something. He said he regretted only letting me know all this. At that moment I hated him, and only now, after years, can I say that I understand him.
Of course, there is also female treason. She is always more reproachable, debatable, and dismissive. Smart people argue that cheating is always the result of something - dissatisfaction with sex, desire for revenge, lack of affection and attention. But there are such couples in which everything is perfect, and some of the partners betray anyway. Why, why? No one can give an intelligible answer to this. Treason is something unpredictable, unamenable to any logic and any explanation. It's like a solar eclipse, like a blow, like a stunning - once, and this has already happened. And believe me, no one is immune from this. No one!
But, nevertheless, there is one way to insure yourself against adultery. Perhaps many will find him too blasphemous or unacceptable for himself. But he is - is to agree on everything in advance. Promise each other that if this happens, the partner should not in any way know about it, and this should in no way affect his life. You will never check each other's phone and try to read other people's correspondence. You will always be protected in order not to pick up any disease and not to transfer it to your partner. You will not go with your lover or mistress to the places where you can meet your other half. You exclude communication with those people who can inform you about each other. You just do everything in order to protect the life of your loved one as much as possible and to preserve his peace, nerves and health.
Say, is it too cynical? Stupid? Insincere? But it's fair. And, perhaps, only this method will help you to be 100% sure that you will never know about the change in your second half. And already agreeing to this method or not - this is just your choice.