The secret of a happy relationship
What is most important in a happy and healthy relationship, which is not only long-term, but also with a future perspective? Discussion of acute and main topics that are in poor outcome and cause inconsistency of opinions and quarrels. As a rule, many people avoid discussing important issues at the initial stage of a relationship, thinking that it is very early for this, and then silence all their claims, relying on the fact that "you had to say before, which is now." Trusting with a partner is the key to success, but now more about that.
Many couples are trying to maintain relationships, despite the different views on politics, money and social issues. But talking about these issues can strengthen and deepen your relationship - or make you understand that you don’t want to associate yourself with this person in the end.
Are any of you in debt? Are you super-good at saving money? It won't make a big difference at the beginning of your relationship, but if you move on to the next step, you will need to know how the financial burden can affect the two of you, especially considering that money is not only a way of being, but also providing comfort, hobbies and interests.
Attitude to money
It's not about how much money you have in the accounts, but about the attitude towards them. You should also know your partner's opinion about spending and savings. If you started together, would you like to have a joint budget, or would you prefer everything to be separate? Do any of you make less money, and if so, how do you feel about that? How often do you get used to eating out or relaxing, given the limitations of your budget?
Do any of you identify with a certain faith? How strong are your religious beliefs? If you are planning to ever have children, one of you will be categorical in their upbringing, depending on religion? You may think that when it comes to religion, love does not affect it. And many, of course, agree that religion should not be an unshakable barrier to love. But the faith of a person can often be the main component of his identity, and it can become surprisingly separating when it comes to children or lifestyle.
Feelings for children
Before you move into a serious relationship, you need to know how your partner treats children. Does he really want this? Once you have established that you want (or do not want) to continue your lineage, find out how many children your partner wants and at what age. But most importantly, what are your views on education? Are you ready for the fact that one will have to partially abandon the dream of building a career, as children will require much more time and attention and the same as changing your life afterwards.
Thrust to work
Ambition. Devotion. Financial stability. All very important attributes. But if one of you is married to your work, can you be married to each other? Look for signs that your partner maintains (moderately) a healthy balance between work and life, and carefully consider whether you can cope with a partnership that gives you loneliness most of the time.
Would you like to move to another city, or maybe to a country? How much does your partner support the idea of moving? If, for example, you got your dream job in America, would your partner agree to such a dramatic change? Although relationships at a distance can certainly exist — even when you are married — they can also be very tense and heavy.
Do any of you have a serious health problem? Do they directly affect life expectancy? Or they can potentially affect your future offspring? These are things that you probably don’t want to know after a few years of living together, with several children.
After the money, sex is one of the main problems, due to which couples quarrel. Some even get divorced due to disputes over their sex lives. That is why it is important to determine at an early stage whether you are compatible in terms of libido, sexual fantasies, as well as the limits of what is permissible in sexual intercourse.
Opposites attract - this is true. But sometimes, when introverts and extroverts fall in love, it leads to more problems than expected. In such cases, it is important to respect each other's level of comfort and come to an agreement on how you will cope with the various features of socialization.