Modern psychologists say that an increasing number of women are increasingly turning to them, who face such a problem as “a man is like a little boy”. This trend, one might say, is gaining catastrophic momentum. Why is this happening and what to do about it? Try to figure it out.
First of all, you need to know that any relationship is the role that their members assume. The most healthy and harmonious are those relations in which partners treat each other on an equal footing - as two lovers, as two people respecting each other, as companions. In such a relationship, only 50 to 50 - love, care, passion, tenderness on both sides is given equally.
There is another kind of relationship that psychologists already consider painful deviations from the norm. This is a relationship in which one of the partners feels like a child, and the other is a caring adult. A woman may feel like a child, but usually it happens in those unions where a man is much older. He takes care of his youthful passion, surrounds her with his father's warmth, and the young lady is naughty and just that puffs up his lips.
But there is an opposite type of relationship that we are talking about today. The type in which a woman takes on the role of mommy. It is hard to say why this happens. Perhaps the legs have been growing since the times of the USSR, when there was a catastrophic lack of men, and most importantly the vocation of women was to cook, clean, wash, iron shirts and raise children. The men then were in a privileged position, well, think for yourself - their main task was to work and bring money home, and everything else fell on the fragile female shoulders.
In many families, this model has survived to this day, and it is this that leads to the fact that a woman becomes a caring mother for her man. She worries that he will not be able to fry his egg until she is at home, and leaves the refrigerator clogged with ready-made food. He doesn’t know how to turn on the washing machine, hold a rag in his hands, he doesn’t know where the brush and the mop are, so she will do everything herself if only her “little one” has done something wrong. She will remind him to wear a hat, pay for the apartment and go to the store for bread. And he, relaxed and flattered by such attention, would be completely impudent and impudent, settling freely in front of the TV with a bottle of beer.
And then dissatisfaction will start from the woman. Well, what kind of man, who can not take anything heavier than the TV remote control? But such a man, the one whom you yourself with your own hands and wards created. Now reap the rewards, as they say. So the question remains hanging in the air - why is all this necessary? All this female sacrifice, excessive self-giving and opepepeka? You give him everything on a silver platter, and he tells you what? Sofa and TV ...
Do not give yourself completely, do not try to take everything on your shoulders and solve all the problems. It is better to quietly step aside and see how the "silly kid" will cope with everything himself. After all, if there is nothing to eat, he will have to stand at the stove and cook dinner. If there are no clean clothes, he will have to turn on the machine and wash it. And so on to infinity. If there is an incentive, then there will be action. And if there is no impulse, then, of course, it makes no sense to tear your fifth point away from the warm place.