Psychology

The art of letting go: 5 methods that work


It's always very difficult to let go, especially when you need to let go of what you need, whether it is a great opportunity, someone you really loved or love, or even any expectations about a particular situation. None of us knows how to finally release, but there are certain ways to facilitate this process, even if you really do not want to do it.

What is destined will overtake you. That which is not destined will not come to you. "- proverb.

Every situation in which you feel compelled to act in a certain way, or which seems harder than it should be, or that causes you pain or suffering, is not meant for you. Belief in this setting will help you overcome the reluctance that comes from deciding to let go. Things that are meant for you will come smoothly into your life. The more you fight for what is not meant for you, the more resistance you will face.

In the end, you can get what you want, but it will not stay with you forever, and you will feel at ease. The whole peculiarity of things destined to you by fate is that they happen easily, in spite of everything. Simply, we are programmed to sometimes complicate our lives.

“The only thing more unthinkable than parting is to stay. The only thing more impossible than staying is parting ”- Elizabeth Gilbert.

Letting go always hurts, especially when you are stuck and it seems that it is impossible to do. But the truth is that once you understand this, it will mean that you have made tremendous efforts to make everything work in your favor to achieve your goal, and sometimes it seems that if after all this effort and perseverance you let go in one moment - it will wrap everything in waste of time. But nothing is ever a waste of time, even if it seems so at first sight; we are here to make mistakes and learn from them in order to develop.

If we continue to hold onto situations that poison us or people who poison us, justifying ourselves by having done too much or too late to change the situation, we will only direct ourselves to an unhappy life. In letting go, there is a power that brings you peace and tranquility.

“If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new greeting” - Paulo Kaello.

Such an attitude towards life will help you move on and release faster. Looks like the thought: “when one door closes, the other opens.” Life always opens new doors for us; Imagine that this is you key to a lot of different doors and you think that you can only open one. We have so much potential, so much talent, so many good things that we can give to this world. We have so many keys to open so many doors!

When you step out the door and close it, you will be shocked by the number of other doors that have been waiting to be opened by you. Completions are not always bad, sometimes they are not the end, but a bridge to new beginnings.

“I think that one of the reasons why we hold very tightly to something is that we are afraid that something so great will not happen twice,” is an anonymous statement.

This is another reason why we continue to hold on to people or situations for longer than it costs. We convince ourselves that good things do not happen twice, we will not be able to find such a wonderful person who will make you feel that way. Or we will not be able to find such a good job or anything that we will be just as passionate about. The truth is that you will always find something or someone who will make you feel happy again, new hobbies will appear and good things will happen two times, and as many times as you like, and most likely they will be even better.

If you look back at your life, some situations where you thought you could not live without someone or something would make you laugh. Great things always happen to us, but for some reason we like to focus on details that are not so good. We hold on to something because of the fear that it will never happen again. We must be fearless to let go.

“Be able to see what is really, not what you want to see” - an anonymous statement.

The truth is that when you realize that the only thing that remains is to let go, it usually means that this person or thing has already released you. You are trying to stay where you are no longer expected. Our mind has a funny way to make us believe in certain things, to make the situation less painful for us, or to redirect it so that it does not incite our pride and break our hearts. But we must perceive the situation as it is presented to us by life, and not the way we want it to be. This is not an optical illusion, it is a reality, and in reality what you see is what you get.

If any opportunity passed by you, she did not want to stop at your station; if someone left you, they did not want to stay; if someone got what you dreamed about - this blessing was not originally written for you, and you will be blessed differently. As you continue to learn the art of letting go, let go of your fear, your past, your mistakes, your failures, your self-doubt. Forgive yourself is enough to let go of those parts of yourself that dim the light.

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