Life flows, changes, brings new things, takes the old, people die, new ones are born, this is normal, it is a law of nature, it is a course of life. But when one of the parents dies, it seems as if an important part of you is dying with them. Time will pass, the pain will be dulled, tears will dry, sad memories will remain, but your course of life will never be the same, and here's why.
1. You will control your words during quarrels.
Because, arguing with your parents, you, at times, very much offended them. And now you will not fix anything, and it remains only to regret and mentally ask for forgiveness for all that has been said.
2. You will learn to ask for forgiveness.
Living with resentment is incredibly hard and, forgiving people, we let go of all that negative, anger and negative emotions that exist in us. Right now I would like to apologize to my parents for many things, but, alas, this is no longer possible.
3. You will appreciate the time spent with loved ones
No friends, acquaintances, entertainment and work can replace him. You will enjoy every minute spent near those who are dear to you.
4. You will understand that time cannot cure everything
Yes, time is the best medicine. But it is a medicine, not a panacea. It can dull the pain, push unpleasant memories into a far corner of memory, present new emotions and impressions, but it can never return everything as it was before. Never. Remember this.
5. You will envy those who have parents
Yes, it will be a light envy, but it will be. You will begin to imagine how they spend family holidays and evenings together, how they share painful things, communicate and support each other. In memory, before your eyes will always emerge your happy meetings with parents who can not return.
6. You can not explain to anyone your condition.
No one can understand you - even a husband, children, sister, brother or those who have experienced the same thing. Because everyone has their own pain and their own emotions.
7. In your children you will see your parents.
In their features, appearance, behavior, character - let it be fleeting and barely noticeable, but it will be. And at the same time you will be painfully and joyfully aware of such similarities.
8. You will hopefully rush to the phone call every time.
Yes, this is stupid, naive, foolish and inexplicable, but every time the phone rings, you will hope to see on the display the highlighted word “Mama” or “Papa”.
9. You will no longer condemn people.
Because somewhere deep in the subconscious in you will sit the idea that the death of parents of the higher forces for something punished you - for pride, envy, gossip, gossip, bad deeds, betrayal. And, therefore, now you will always treat people as you would like them to treat you.
10. You will never be the same.
Time will pass, the memories will start to fade, the pain will go away, the new life will come into its own, but some part of you will forever be broken - and you will again become that little defenseless girl who wants to crawl to your mother and get support and protection.